I never get womans obsession with marriages.
No, seriously, i simply dont.
You see them talk about it all the time, you see them whinge and whine about their friends are having a wedding, their besties is now married, and finally the inevitable question (or envy) pops up in their mind.
"when is my time"
Woman are sorts of piccadilly on this matter of subject. They like being teased about it, and then denied the question of "when?" with a red-ish cheek, and in the end just basically drags their man to sit down and ask the question,
WHEN?
Now this is the hole that usually mans fall into. Failing to response to this kind of question will result in a disaster, in which woman think the man isnt serious with them. Promising/setting a long date of time in the future will result in....constant nagging and request to makes it come sooner.
Right now there must be lots of woman denying this.
"All we want is a warranty"
Yes i know, but imagine this. Imagine that this is january. Imagine that your birthday is in December, and you are allowed to ask to your parents one gift for your birthday present. Any gift that you desire.
imagine....
Me? well obviously it would be Toyota Sprinter Trueno AE86.
Imagine now that your parents bought it the next day right after you wished it, but then says to you that you can only see it, you cant touch it, you cant have it yet, you cant ride it, cant do anything to it until December, which is your birthday.
Guess whats gonna happen? in the end everybody will just nag about, "oh please can i have it sooner", or "oh please can i just touch it", "why cant we have it sooner?", "whats the difference between now and then? why wait?" and etc etc etc. The deepest desire is still the same.
You just cant get somebody to sit still and waits for their present.
So, man, boys, whatever you are, i've been counseling lots of people, and one thing i could tell you is that, never ever promise that its gonna happen SOON. Do it when it is the time. The hust in time system. Otherwise you will cope an instant nagging all the time.
And if your missus starting to open a conversation about it, and you have nowhere else to go, best to do what @radityadika said,
Pretend to be dead.
hmmm gue sebenernya masih blom terlalu ngeh sih poin utama dari blogpost lo yang ini gimana. yang pertama, english gue jeblok. yang kedua, awalnya gue kira isinya bakalan sejenis ma permasalahan yang kebanyakan muncul setelah lebaran dan setelah gue telaah baik-baik kaya'nya bukan.
ReplyDeletegue dengan pede menyatakan bahwa gue ga termasuk dalam cewe'-cewe' yang lo sebut di atas. well obviously because 1) I don't have that someone to be dragged and questioned, and 2) mungkin gue ga pernah blak-blakan ngomong ke semua orang but I do afraid of marriage.
ketika temen atau sodara deket gue married, yang biasanya umurnya terpaut ga jauh dari gue, gue lebih mencemaskan mulut-mulut usil di sekitar gue ketimbang keinginan yang ada dalam diri gue sendiri. heck, gue blom mau married sebelum gue bisa ke italy pake duit sendiri, tapi gue males aja ditanyain "kapan nyusul?" etc.
tapi sepertinya blogpost lo di atas bukan membahas tentang itu, jadi sebaiknya kita sudahi saja komentar ini sampai di sini, LOL.